When You Feel Guilty as a Caregiver

QUESTION: "My 88-year-old father lives across the country. I manage annual trips to visit him, though the day-to-day tasks that help him stay home fall to my mother and siblings. I try to assist when I come for a visit, but I know I am only scratching the surface of what it takes to help him. I cannot shake this feeling of guilt, and I am not able to simply leave my job and move back home. Many of my friends are glad to leave the caregiving to their brothers and sisters. They do not seem to care that they are not carrying their share of the load. I, on the other hand, feel badly that I do not do enough. What is the solution here?" - READER